Writer, Coach and Creator.
Divorce: How to Survive and Thrive.
Why me?
Let me introduce myself—I’m a scriptwriter, behavioural health and recovery coach, father, and divorcee, with years of experience in each role.
Over time, I’ve come to see that the journeys of writing, coaching, and navigating divorce are deeply interconnected. After guiding many people through one of the most challenging transitions of their lives, I realized that my own experiences could serve as a valuable resource for others. yes I know I’m not alone in thinking this, and there are loads of coaches out there - but hey, I can give you what I learned if that appeals.
Divorce offers immense potential for positive change, yet it brings with it a profound fear of loss and a whirlwind of emotions. It’s not just about starting over—it’s about confronting the end of a chapter, and then writing a new one.
So, how can I help?
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With most writing projects, it is important to have a structure, like building a house we have four walls, floor and roof, writing is kind of the same, and from that you get endless variety.
I’m going to combine the approach to writing a script and implement it as a way to write a new life journey, using some of the tools found within coaching.
Step One: The Ordinary World (Reality Check)
Hero’s Journey:
The person is living in their familiar, pre-divorce life, doing their best to maintain the status quo, but perhaps feeling stuck or unhappy.
GROW Model - Reality:
Explore the current situation. What does their life look like?
Are they emotionally present or checked out?
Reflect on the emotional state: are they coping through avoidance (work, distractions) or facing the reality?
Questions:What’s working in your life right now, and what’s not?
What’s the emotional climate in your relationship?
Step 2
Hero’s Journey:
An event occurs that forces the person to confront change—perhaps the decision to separate or a significant conflict. They are called to step out of their comfort zone.
GROW Model - Goal:
Establish clear, meaningful goals for life during and after divorce.
What do they want to achieve?
It could be emotional recovery, better co-parenting, financial stability, or personal growth.
Questions:What do you want from this next phase of your life?
How would you define success post-divorce?
Refusal to the call - Step Three
Hero’s Journey:
The person resists the change, afraid of losing what they know, even if it’s unhealthy. They deny the need for change, or fear overwhelms them.
GROW Model - Reality (Continued):
Explore the resistance. What fears, doubts, or anxieties are causing hesitation?
Facing the reality of the situation is key here—divorce is inevitable, and the situation can’t be avoided forever.
Questions:What is holding you back from moving forward?
Are you clinging to the past, and if so, why?
Meeting with Mentor - Step Four
Hero’s Journey:
The person encounters a mentor who offers guidance, advice, or support—this could be a therapist, coach, or even a supportive friend.
GROW Model - Options:
Now, they start to explore possible paths forward. What are the available options for managing the divorce? Mediation, legal advice, therapy, and financial planning all come into play.
Questions:Who can support you in this journey?
What are the different paths available to you right now?
What resources can help you cope emotionally, legally, and financially?
Crossing the Threshold - Step Five
Make a choice to move forward not back
Hero’s Journey:
The person makes the choice to leave their old life behind and step into the unknown. This is a significant commitment—acknowledging that life will never be the same again.
GROW Model - Will:
Commitment is made to move forward, despite the fear and uncertainty. It’s about deciding to take the first step and focusing on actionable choices.
Questions:Are you ready to let go of the past and commit to the future?
What specific steps will you take to start moving forward?
Test, allies, enemiess - Step Six
Hero’s Journey:
As the person embarks on the journey, they encounter obstacles (tests), supportive individuals (allies), and resistance from others (enemies). They face legal, emotional, and practical challenges.
GROW Model - Reality (Continued):
What are the challenges standing in their way? Who can help, and who might create additional obstacles? This stage is about preparing for real-world struggles like court battles, financial disputes, or emotional challenges.
Questions:Who are your allies, and who might challenge you?
What tests or challenges do you foresee in this journey?
Approach - Step Seven
Hero’s Journey:
The person approaches a turning point, emotionally or legally, where they have to confront their deepest fears or challenges in the divorce process.
GROW Model - Options (Revisited):
Here, they revisit their options and reevaluate their strategies. Should they settle in court or pursue mediation? What’s the healthiest path forward for their emotional
Central Ordeal - Step Eight
Do you have the stomach for the fight ?
Hero’s Journey:
This is the major confrontation. The person faces their greatest fear or challenge head-on, perhaps in court or in a crucial personal conversation. It’s a defining moment in the divorce process.
GROW Model - Will (Testing Strength):
This is the true test of willpower. Are they able to hold on to their goals and fight through the hardest moments of divorce? Do they have the emotional and mental strength to endure the struggle?
Questions:What does fighting for your future look like?
What tools or strengths will help you endure this hardest phase?
Reward - Step 9
Hero’s Journey:
After the ordeal, there is a reward. It may not be what they originally envisioned, but there is some sense of accomplishment—whether it’s peace of mind, custody arrangements, or emotional growth.
GROW Model - Goal (Achieved):
They reach a significant milestone or goal—closure, a legal agreement, emotional peace, or a sense of newfound independence.
Questions:What’s the first reward you’ve received for your efforts?
How do you feel now that you’ve achieved one of your goals?
The road back - Step 10
Hero’s Journey:
The person starts the journey back to a new life, but they realize they have been changed by their experiences. They reflect on the lessons learned and how they’ve grown.
GROW Model - Reality (Reevaluated):
Their reality has changed. They reflect on their new situation—how has their life, mindset, or emotional state shifted post-divorce?
Questions:How does life look now compared to when you started this journey?
What lessons have you learned along the way?
Resurrection - Step 11
Hero’s Journey:
The person faces one final challenge, but they are now equipped with the tools, wisdom, and strength to handle it. This is a moment of true rebirth, where they are no longer defined by the past.
GROW Model - Will (Resurrection of Self):
With a renewed sense of willpower, they start to rebuild their life. They have the tools and resilience to move forward in a positive direction.
Questions:What tools have you
Return with the Elixir - Step 12
Let’s look at what life could look like
Future mapping
Dream outcome
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